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Building Momentum from Nothing

momentumThis is a guest post by Dr. Peter J. Meyers (“Dr. Pete”). He is a cognitivist psychologist, marketer, recent dad, and accidental entrepreneur. He wrestles with procrastination and writes about his victories and bruises at 30GO30.

I’m a big believer in the power of momentum, but lately I’ve been struggling with something. It’s easy to appreciate momentum once you start to feel the impact and have had a few successes, but what do you do when you’re at rock bottom – whether it’s creatively, in your career, etc? I have some friends struggling to get started, and so I’m writing this post both for them and as a reminder to myself.

Get Something (Anything) Started.

It may sound simplistic, but the most important first step is to take a first step, even if it’s the wrong one. One of the very few things I’m absolutely sure of about life is this: you ultimately have two options:
(1) Do something.
(2) Do nothing.

If you do something, you might fail. If you do nothing, you will fail. Actually, worse yet, you’ll never even have the chance to benefit from the lessons of failure.

Try to Take a Rational View.

If you’re having trouble taking that leap of faith, then try to look at it rationally. Fifteen years ago, I was in a good chunk of debt. I was coming out of my PhD program with credit card debts and student loans, I owned basically nothing, and I took a fairly risky bet on a $30K/year job at a start-up (and by “start-up” I mean one guy and a bunch of cardboard boxes in an abandoned warehouse). Looking at my debt versus what I could scrape aside each month to pay it off, the situation seemed hopeless.

Eventually, though, I ran the numbers. Even at just $50/month, there was real hope, if I took along-term view. So, I got started with the credit cards. Eventually, I paid off one, so I rolled that payment into the next one. With each debt that got paid off, I built real momentum. Finally, when it came time to tackle the big student loan, I was paying more than double the required amount every month. Just a few years later, I was in the clear and putting money away.  Not every path in life is a numbers game, but too often we let negative emotion win out. If you can divide your goal into steps and start to see the impact of reaching those steps, one by one, it’s a lot easier to get started.

Don’t Second-guess Yourself.

When you’re really feeling down, any tiny obstacle causes you to correct your course. The problem is that you often end up not giving good ideas a chance to work. The classic example for me is exercise. I love to come up with new exercise plans, but 2 weeks in, as soon as I have a bad morning or things get tough, I start adjusting. It MUST be the plan that’s wrong. Of course, that usually leads to a total abandonment of any plan and weeks of self-recrimination.So, once you’ve come up with a plan, give it a certain amount of time – at least 30 days. It can be scary, because every day you’ll think “What if this is the wrong plan?” The simple fact of the matter is that, if you give up too soon, you’ll never know. Better to commit and find out – if you really put the time in, and then realize it’s the wrong direction, you’ll probably have a much better sense of what new course would be better. If you give up at the slightest hint of trouble, you’ll just randomly end up on the next road that comes along.

Count The Small Victories.

There is no momentum without success, but success is often a trick of perception. One of the biggest stumbling blocks to momentum is only seeing the ultimate end-game and treating life as pass/fail. Unless you start looking at the steps in between and can recognize that you’ve made progress, momentum is impossible.

Unfortunately, when you’re down on yourself and the world, seeing anything you do as a “progress” (especially the little things) is challenging at best. Again, I think you have to remove the emotion – in this case, by deciding what counts as success in advance. Break your ultimate goal down into achievable pieces. If you’re job-hunting, maybe you stop and reward yourself for sending out 25 applications, then 50, then for your 1st interview, etc. You can’t control the final outcome, but you can control what you do, and you can recognize your success when you achieve those tasks.  Once you start to see the victories, momentum has a real chance.

Plan on The Setbacks.

Finally, you have to face the unpleasant truth – setbacks will happen. Momentum isn’t a perpetual upward spiral. It’s an accumulation of just enough of the positive to keep you from sliding back to the bottom. So, recognize the potential setbacks and plan on them. It’s a little depressing at first, but if you avoid thinking about the obstacles, they’ll still be there waiting, and they’ll completely knock the wind out of you. If you look ahead a bit and see them coming, you might just stand a chance.

So, get out there, and get moving. If you put yourself in motion, momentum isn’t far behind.

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Knowledge saturation and what it means to you and me

pourwaterFor the past three years I have been pouring knowledge about social media, Web 2.0, writing, creativity and other related stuff into my brain almost non-stop.  It’s been an incredible learning adventure.

This week I feel like the cup that the Zen Master pours water into.  You know, the story about the student who wanted to learn everything the Master knew?  The Master pours so much water into that cup that water overflows everywhere.  The Master’s point is that the student’s mind was already full of knowledge and he needed to make room for new knowledge.

I kind of feel like that at the moment.

I feel like I need time to let the dust settle and to start making more connections between what I already know and what I’m just learning.

How about you?  Do you ever feel like you can’t take in even one more character of information?

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Slices of Time

I’ve noticed an interesting phenomenon lately while working.

As a full-time freelancer, my clients expect me to track my time fairly and explain how long different tasks took to accomplish. We generally don’t do this when we work as a salaried employee somewhere. Our managers assign some tasks and vague deadlines, we get things done by the deadline and it is assumed that the time allotted was completely filled with the work.

In reality, of course, the typical 8-hour salaried workday could contain an hour or two of “nonproductive” time: meetings, coffee breaks with coworkers, surfing the web, straight-up goofing off. And when you are approaching the end of a typical work period – ten minutes before lunch hour or the end of the day – that time is often nonproductive because there is “no point” in starting a task and breaking it off mid-thought.

As a freelancer, the workday (and the concept of productive time) is more fluid. I account for my time in 15-minute increments. During a typical day I may work a couple hours in the morning, do some housework or family stuff at mid-day, a few hours in the afternoon interrupted by breaks, maybe some time in the evening. Some days I might not have billable time at all. As long as the client is in the loop and targets are hit, no one is too concerned. Some clients expect me to work when they work; others just ask when I am available

The phenomenon I’ve noticed is this: when I prepare to do some work, I often don’t start until the clock reads a time that works neatly with my 15-minute intervals. In other words, if I check the clock and it’s 2:05, I will usually kill time until 2:15 and then start.

Why?

After all, it doesn’t take a genius to stop and start a stopwatch, like a chess timer, to precisely track one’s billable time. But, as Scott McCloud might point out, the human brain loves symmetry and routine. We express time in shorthand every day, rounding up or down to say that it is “quarter to three” when it is actually 2:40. That’s fine for telling a stranger the time; but for billing a client, we want to be more precise.

What disturbs me a little about the time-killing is that it feels like a bit of a waste; all those moments can add up. But I also don’t like feeling like a slave to conditioning. As a Buddhist, I am always supposed to live and work in the present moment.

I am reminded of a book that I loved when it was published in 1993: Einstein’s Dreams, by Alan Lightman. It is a speculative novel about the early life of Albert Einstein, when he was still working as a patent clerk, and the dreams that led him to formulate the theory of relativity. Surrounding the vignettes of Einstein’s waking life are brief, journal-like descriptions of parallel worlds in which time operates differently- or rather, is perceived differently- than it is in ours.

Time is something that can be both absolute and relative: it is measured in tiny increments by apparently infallible atomic clocks, but it is also experienced differently from person to person, and from day to day (or even minute to minute) by the same person. Productivity- the amount of work performed in a span of time- can be relative as well.

Suppose a client tells me that every instance of the word “the” in a 200 page document must be changed to “thy.” I spend a couple of hours scouring the document and changing every instance. Was that a productive use of my time? No; the find-and-replace function in any word processor would have taken seconds, and would have probably been more accurate.

I think that productivity is what we feel when we apply our minds to something that challenges us, no matter how long the task takes. It’s not about how quickly we resolved the incoming call or made the fast food. It’s about the outcome of those actions.


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A Way Past “I Don’t Feel Like It” to “Getting Things Done”

Ah, creative types.  We’re a neurotic bunch, aren’t we?

One of the most common hiccups in the creative process is procrastination.  Why is it so tempting to put off what needs doing?

For several years now, a common theory or practice that gets recommended to help creative people get past procrastination is David Allen’s Getting Things Done (GTD) program.

The central thesis of GTD is “get your ‘stuff’ out of your head, into a trusted system that breaks it down into simple tasks, and then start knocking out tasks.”  Which works beautifully.  When you actually do it.

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But what about when you can’t seem to get yourself to start putting your stuff into your trusted system?  Where do you find the motivation to get things done?  Is the procrastination creatives are so prone to really just simply a function of overwhelm and too many inputs, or could there be something more to it?

For several years now, I’ve been practicing (off and on) an American version of two complementary Japanese therapy forms called Constructive Living.  Dr. David K. Reynolds spent years in Japan studying Morita and Naikon, two practices used to treat what the Japanese called shinkeishitsu neurotics.  People whose thoughts are stuck in a self-centered, somewhat narcissistic pattern to the extent it was sapping their motivation for living.  He combined and modified the two for Western culture, and the result was Constructive Living.

Morita is based on the idea that you can’t change your feelings by force of will, but feelings follow behavior.  So if you simply accept your feelings, move on, and do what needs doing, very often your feelings will move to a healthier, more positive place all on their own.  ”Behavior wags the tail of feelings.”  Morita is the active half of CL.  Naikon is based on the idea that we tend to ignore everything that is going right, the ways that individuals and the universe support and provide for us, and only focus on what’s gone or going wrong.  Naikon is the meditative half of CL.

Here are the general guiding principles of Constructive Living:

  • You cannot control your feelings by an act of will.
  • Because you cannot control them you are not responsible for them.
  • You are always responsible for your actions.
  • Your feelings are useful and can teach you about what you want and what’s important to you.
  • All feelings fade over time unless re-stimulated.
  • We are not separate; we “inter-are.” We are all interrelated.
  • The Universe supports us in ways which we often do not see.
  • The optimum way of living is to find your purpose, hold to it and act in a way which will lead you to it.

GTD is a great methodology for the HOW part of doing what needs doing.  For me, CL has been a great means to unlocking the WHY part of doing what needs doing.

For me, I struggled with GTD because there was one big thing between me and actually working the system:  motivation.   I’d start out strong, but be unable to maintain my motivation to keep doing the next Next Action.

My neurotic, “the world is out to get me and my past sucks” thinking kept me stuck in “but I don’t feel like doing it!” land.  And as an Enneagram 4 and an INFP (both “feeling” based types), it was really tough for me to get past “I don’t feel like creating right now!”

Naikon meditation makes you consciously, intentionally focus on the ways that God/the universe/reality/other people are supporting you.  It corrects the skewed vision that we naturally fall into, where we hyperfocus on what goes wrong (the car that cut you off in traffic) and completely miss what went right (your alarm worked perfectly, as it does nearly every morning).

Keeping a small laminated card with the CL principles I’ve outlined above with me, whenever I would find myself getting bogged down in “I don’t feel like doing it” land, I would tell myself “You’re feeling tired/angry/lonely/sad.  Okay.  Now what needs doing?”

And invariably, I found that just doing something productive would end up vastly improving my mood, and creating the motivation to want to do the next task.

So if you’ve tried doing GTD (and been embarrassed by mostly failing to get things done), maybe it’s not you.  Maybe you need something to clear the decks in your brain first.  Constructive Living has worked really well for me.  You might give it a try.

Here are a few resources to get started:

http://www.constructiveliving.org/

http://www.todoinstitute.org/cl.html

http://www.theconstructedlife.com/constructive-living/

Amazon Links: Constructive Living (I also really like Thirsty, Swimming in a Lake)

What is your motivation?

maslowYou’ve got to feel good about yourself, and other people, before you can reach your potential. Otherwise, your life is going to be like a psychic game of Snakes and Ladders where all you do is slide further and further downward when you try to move forward.

Or will it?

The scenario that I described above is derived from Abraham Maslow’s theories of needs and motivation. Maslow’s claim to fame is developing a hierarchy of human needs in which different needs become dominant depending on the current quality of your life. The theory argues that basic (survival, security and love) needs take precedence over higher order needs like esteem and/or self-actualization. Maslow’s theory was developed based on a study of well-adjusted and successful people, trying to see what they might have in common.

Self-actualization vs. vice

In a nutshell, if you’re healthy, happy, and secure you start wanting to do other things. You will want to stretch your creative talents, work on developing new skills and generally be a better person.

It reminds me of that Star Trek: The Next Generation episode where three 20th century people are revived on the USS Enterprise. One of them, a former entertainer who had had a terminal case of sex, drugs and rock ‘n’ roll (or country music, at least), wondered what people did for recreation in the 24th century: all of the vices seemed to have disappeared. Captain Picard replied that people were more interested in bettering themselves. Sounds like a page right out of Maslow’s writings.

Meanwhile, here in the 21st century, vice is still big business, although there are droves of people who are trying to live better, healthier lives.

Wait, where’s the real hierarchy?

So the hierarchy of human needs concept begs a few questions:

  • Can you be creative if you don’t have a home?
  • Can you feel love, empathy, and esteem for other people when you are homeless, hungry and cold?
  • Is having love, security and shelter (or sex, drugs and rock ‘n’ roll) enough to lead a happy and satisfied life?

It is interesting to note that Maslow’s theories have been disputed for many years. Other researchers are trying to validate Maslow’s theories.

Actually, they are working on their own hierarchies of human needs because they aren’t satisfied with Maslow’s conclusions. For example, a recent model proposed by Kenrick suggests that our highest motivation is the continuation of the species through the act of parenting.  Self-actualization isn’t even in this hierarchy, except as a footnote!

Other people feel that Maslow’s hierarchy was too biased towards one set of people:  successful and engaged people.  Plus, as Thoughtwrestling contributor Suzemuse pointed out in the comments on a post about creativity, sometimes creativity is what you use to satisfy your basic needs.

What’s your motivation?

So my question for you is one of motivation. Why do you make, create or write things? Is it for:

  • Survival
  • Security
  • Love
  • Esteem
  • Self-Actualization?

Or is there some other motivation that isn’t included in Maslow’s hierarchy that compels you to do creative work?

Please share your thoughts in the comments!



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